if your spouse is mentally ill or just a selfish person who chose a destructive path
I'm not sure there is a difference. Suicide is the most selfish act one can do. My family has suicide in its history and its something I'll never understand nor will I ever sympathize with. The aftermath effect on those that care about the person is devastating.
I see someone has a very poor understanding of mental health. It's an actual illness, like cancer. My mother had a serious mental health condition which ended in suicide.
Imagine, you have cancer, they tell you there is no more that can be done for it, and you decide to go on hospice. Are you being "selfish" for making that decision? For not wanting to suffer anymore.
Sometimes there isn't enough medication to help depression and mental illness. It can't be cured. And that, sadly enough, is going on hospice for them.
Sorry, hot button topic for me. I hope you never have to know the pain of having a disease that makes living absolutely unbearable to you.
