My wife and I been together for 12 yrs, married 7. 2 boys 5 and 2. We have had our ups and downs, but we loved each other a hole lot. I'm the bread winner, since she got pregnant with first child I let her stay home while I worked. We were super happy with first child, yrs went by 4, we got preg with second child. I worked on, she tended to house and baby. Everything going as planned. We had two beautiful boys we loved dearly. We never had any help with kids, my family lived an hour away, she didn't have any family much, what she had couldn't help with kids. So we stayed at home most of the time when I was off work. We went here and there but never got to spend us time together.I was a dedicated father who didn't care to do things without my babies. I neglected her in that way for years. Never thought she'd leave. Thought kids were first. About 4 yrs ago I needed to find a new job. One where I thought I could climb and help family. In my feild you have to start on night shift in plants. I consulted her, it was ok. So I did it. I got a new job, a good job with good benefits. She was at home for 6 years with 2 babies by herself daily. I slept during the day and worked at night. We had our routine. I thought everything was fine. I would complain about house not being clean, or clothes not being washed. Simple chores that I figured she had plenty of time to do. We argued every month about her paying bills on time or spending to much. Normal stuff. For about the last year or so she would tell me Chris your pushing me away, Chris let's go on date night. Etc. I never had time. In February we had argument and she pack some things and left. Stayed gone two days, came back. We had a good valentine's Day, everything seemed normal. She told me I needed to change and I didn't listen. I am a homebody. If I'm not at work, I find projects around house, or maintain vehicles, always something that needs done. She's a social butterfly. She has so many friends I don't even know them all. Loves social media, I almost hate it. At the end of April I was off a Thursday had to work all weekend. We were having a great evening, cooking dinner, kids, music going. She deliberately started an argument. We got mad, argued she packed all her stuff that weekend while I slept and left. That was 4/28/18. I begged, I pleaded, done all the things I now am taught not to do. No good. She is staying at her aunt's house and has the kids when I'm working. The first few weeks she stayed home with kids most of the time. Being really cold toward me, distant, ignoring txt, not answering calls. I never knew where she was, really hurtful. About the last two weeks she has began to hang out with random people, partying, lying to me, just selfish attitude. All the blame on me. A week or two after she left I found the Devorse remedy and have read it 3 times now. I have started tlr, back slid everytime. 2 days is the longest I been. I have to communicate about kids constantly. She always wants my help still, money, car maintenance, babysitting, I don't have a free moment. Is this WAW, or WW. I haven't found any evidence of another guy, but she tells me to find someone and move on. We will never be again, and all the hurtful and cold things they say.
