Limbo / Piecing? Daughter struggling.

[SteveLW]

mtb, thanks, and I know you would. But as AS and others say that success isn't always R. Sometimes success is being able to move on with dignity.

There was a lot of things in play, set up over the last 2 decades, that led to my R. I was lucky as not all of those things were in my control. I'll give you one example, my W can count on half of one hand the number of times she has drank alcohol. She has an alcohol intolerance (she refers to it as an allergy). Imagine how different your sitch would be if that was the case with your W.

So I am very fortunate for many things in my sitch that helped that others may not have the good fortune of having in theirs.

But also being able to finally be okay moving on even in the face of D was really what turned things around. That is why I am such an advocate for self differentiation (aka detachment). It is an imperative, and it something I see you getting better and better each step of the way. So keep up the good work. You will be setup well for a new MR in the future, whether that is with your W or someone else.