Hello all...I am not new to the boards..as I went through the D back about 12 years ago...I did everything wrong before finding this place. In hindsight, I might have been able to make changes that would have avoided the D. But it happened..she remarried and something strange happened, as we started to become friends again. Her 2nd M didn't last long.

We dated for a bit and then remarried 3 years ago, and as everyone says, we seemed really happy! Then, about a year ago, her mother passed away from an awful bout with cancer. She kinda went into a tailspin emotionally..became withdrawn. A few months of this and it seemed as if she were beginning to rebound some. Then she expressed to me that she was feeling "trapped" in our relationship. After several discussions and a few arguments, we basically decided to just "live as roommates" for a bit to see if we could reboot the relationship. So that's what we've been doing for several weeks, and it seemed to be working. I suspect there is an A going on, but I don't know at what level. One night last week, we were home alone and she seemed friendlier than normal, and although I haven't been initiating any hugs, kisses, etc. She was laughing trying to get her contact our and asked me into the bathroom to look in her eye to see if it was still in there...I kissed her on the lips..and she immediately pulled back some, then grabbed me and hugged me. Wow. So, no more of that then!

On Thursday she told me she was going to go away this weekend for some space. That's why I'm pretty sure there is an A going on. Funny thing is, before she left she was sending nice texts, like "Have a good day" and even told me before I left for work how nice I looked (guilt?) Fast forward to last night, when I was somewhat expecting her to be home. Then I realized she would prob stay until today (Monday) as she doesn't have to work.

HERE IS WHERE I MADE MY MISTAKE.

I sent her a text and just said that I was going to try to find a place to move. She said we could talk about it today. I immediately regretted sending that text, as I think being in the same place will help, since I've been LRT'ing like crazy the past 3 or 4 weeks. So when we talk today, how do I handle it? I was thinking of just simply saying "i've changed my mind" and going back to just being happy around her, as before. Any advice appreciated!