WW in MLC affair and I need advice..

[Natash]

Not much has changed regarding my situation other than I've really got used to and enjoy GAL activities. I had a blast last weekend whitewater rafting and this weekend took my girls to a free outdoor celebration with bounce house, climbing wall, ice cream, face painting etc on Saturday and today I took them to a zoo and then spent the afternoon swimming in our pool for the first time this year. While at the celebration, my ww bf came up to me and said hi and asked how I'm doing. I said I'm doing all right. She shoky her head about my ww and said I'm trying to get her to read self help books but she doesn't always want to hear what I say. I told her well it's going to be her loss and my gain. Ww bf mom new about the situation and said Natash, it's time you start hanging out with another woman and that'll open her eyes or sit her down and tell her I'm moving on with my life and my girls and I am going to find someone that wants to be with me and maybe it's time to go visit an attorney. I told her that it's getting close to that but I take it one day at a time and have learned to not rush a decision especially if emotions are at play.

I found it interesting that in the past week WW posted on FB she wishes life had a reset button one day and then another she put "oh what to do on this beautiful day?" I laughed and thought " if you hadn't made the choices you have, you'de be busy enjoying the sun on the deck or in the pool playing with your family and not looking for something to do"

Today she texted me asking if I wanted to "go something together for D5s upcoming birthday" I replied go? (Not knowing if she meant get or do or something else). She came back "really you couldn't figure that out lol" Same old sarcastic self she is I see. I'm done playing mind games and told her it could have meant get and do not give me a hard time for clarifying something. I then told her I'd have to think about it and get back to her.

This is where id like suggestions.

I think it would be best for my D if we did one party together but I'm not looking forward to planning anything with ww for a few reasons. This past February I remember her telling me she needed space but if anything happened to us she wouldn't want to fight like her friend and her ex does now they are divorced and she wants to stay friends and would like to have the girls birthday parties at home still. I said we'll see come that time, the girls might want a bowling party or something. Not to mention divorce involves money and family that often brings out a fight from both sides and you have wishful thinking if you expect to be best friends. Now the time is here and I think the WW is thinking about a pool party at our beautiful home that she no longer lives at. In the past, birthday party's have been a success but huge stress. I have not been a part in the planning and it's not because I don't want to. It's because my ww and MIL would come up with ideas planning and go all out and do it all on their own hosting the party. During this time they would do all the work and then the day of the party stress to the max so neither one was fun to be around. I remember last yet MIL asked for an ice cream scoop so I went inside to get one. While I was pulling it out of the draw, she came in and grabbed a spoon and I can't wait any lot it's melting! Really, 20seconds after getting what she asked for was not fast enough. Anyways, at the end of the day the guests were happy and enjoyed the hard work my ww and mil put into the party but several last year came up to me after and asked why MIL seemed to be in a bad mood. I told them she stresses out until it's over and realizes everyone had fun. My wife is the same way. I didn't like being around her until the party was well underway before and definitely don't look forward to it now we are separated! She handles stress poorly even though most of the stress is self induced on that day. However, if I can suck it up and plan this with my ww, it would be a 180 so I'm thinking I should say "yes, let's plan something together. Are you thinking about having a pool party? "

I've done such a good job detatching lately. However, she does seem to find a reason to text me daily about the girls... yesterday it was " did you remember sunscreen? I think she talked with bff and learned we had attended the outdoor celebration/BBQ. I ignored it and didn't respond. I feel I have dropped the rope and wonder what it will be like having her back at home for the day around family and friends, many of them that do not agree with what she has done and don't care to be art her until she shows remorse.