BTW you are in the VERY early days, everything is still raw and very very fresh and I am wondering if some parts of you can not yet accept this is really happening. This is normal, we all went through this. It is an insane situation and we keep applying "sane" rules to it. The sooner you realize it is not a normal situation, it is not sane, and she is in a mental health crises the sooner you can start stabilizing. This of her as having a mental health breakdown and is in an institution, would you look at her behaviour applying normal logic and expecting anything from her in that case?
