Hi All, I keep seeing all of the suicide coverage in the news. I keep remembering my husband begging to come home and saying he'd kill himself two-and-a-half years ago. Then I remember how he hugged me this week and I was reminded that you never know how fragile another person can be or what they're thinking. I'll continue to practice DB techniques but every single aspect of our situations are so hard to grasp, particularly when you don't know if your spouse is mentally ill or just a selfish person who chose a destructive path. I'm aware of the need to focus on ourselves and know we can't control our spouses but I do want to avoid any wrong moves that could push a suicidal spouse to suicide.
Arsh, thanks for your response. I stopped asking my husband to do anything for our daughter a while back, but I hope to maintain a positive relationship with him so he's more likely to visit our daughter. It's hard to explain but basically I don't want his anger at me to cause him to avoid seeing our daughter because it means he'd have to see me. So far we're doing better....I just hope it'll keep getting better. Not in terms of reconciliation but helping my husband feel comfortable visiting our daughter and giving him easy access to her so they can build a relationship. Most of the families in this forum seem to consist of parents who are both involved in their kids' lives and share responsibilities but that hasn't been the case with my husband. He's spent very little time with our daughter and he's just now starting to show more interest. We'll see how it goes.
