Yes, act positive and friendly but in a detached way. You want to take the pressure off of her. She knows you dont approve of what she wants to do, but you have to show her that you respect that she has the right as a person to choose for herself.
Dont apologize now. Words are cheap, she will only respect consistent actions over time.
Definitely dont try to point out flaws in her plan. If they are there she will discover them on her own. Read the validation thread. Listen well and validate. You arent going to convince her of anything at this point.
I would definitely separate financially if it is good for you. It can protect you but also give her more independence. I just did it with my wife. I would not file for an official separation agreement unless you want to or it serves a specific purpose in your case. Let the WAW take the lead on all that sort of paperwork which leads to divorce.
Good luck.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
