I wouldn't go apologizing too much. I don't think it will mean much to her anyways.
I wouldn't ask about any flaws in her plan. It's going to have a bunch and you won't be able to do anything about them.
Assets? Talk to a lawyer and you'll have to post more info than that if you want more advice on the finances (not being rude, but every situation is different).
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
