Yet Another LBS w/ WAW

[Davide]

Hongaku,

You have come to a fantastic and supportive community here. You might not always like what they have to say, but everyone is speaking from a place of caring and love in their attempts to help. Definitely keep posting and read some of the other threads on here. Benitos thread is one that has helped me a lot http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2778117&page=10

You seem to be doing a lot of the steps necessary to improve yourself, in terms of exercise, IC, medication, job searching. Are you able to get out and spend time with friends as well? I have also found mindfullness and breathing activities to be very helpful. Keep the focus on improving yourself since that is all you can control.

It sounds like our situations are relatively similar in terms of dealing with depression and codependency. Is there a reason you left the house rather than your wife? I did the same in early April and regret that decision. I highly recommend that you read Codependency No More, I have also found the book Self Esteem to be very helpful. Do you have any reason to think that your wife is an A or is acting strangely, or do you think she is a pure WAW, unhappy with the marriage and simply acting to protect herself? Since you have kids I assume that you have lots of opportunities to interact with your W, make sure to take advantage of them by acting as positive and friendly as you can.

Good luck with your journey!