W rushing thru D, help

[SteveLW]

Cory09, sorry you are here. But you will find support and great advice from some great people on this board.

I can't help but tell you, and be ready for this when it comes to light, that I am 99.9999% she has met someone. The timing of the BD, the day after returning from a business trip, is just too coincidental. Likely something happened on the trip between her and this someone. Everything else is a smokescreen.

Happy healthy marriages don't just suddenly end. You have a DB coach so you know that WASs are notorious for rewriting the history of the MR. She went from writing you a heartfelt letter on your anniversary to dropping a bomb on you the day after returning from a business trip.

I've told the story of my friend on here before. His wife dropped a bomb out of midair one day. At the behest of my W and I he hired a PI, and sure enough, she was deep into the throes of a PA. She'd gone on "business trips" and he found out later that most of them were not business trips but personal vacations with the OM. OM worked with his W.

Anyway, hang in there. You can't control what she does or says, you can only control you. YOu sound like you are doing a lot of things right, but you do need to lose the NGS fast, and really commit to GAL, 180s, detachment and being the best Cory09 that you can be.