@sjohns6 ultimately only you will know if you are done with her. But I can tell you that I have felt all the same things you say, and I alternate between caring and now. I think its all part of the process, just give yourself time and space and let it sort out. Honestly once you actually are separated out and don't interact with her you may gain more clarity.
As for love I have realized that my wife's definition of love is very different than mine. I do believe she loved and loves me, but she does not have a full mature grasp of what love is, or that in entails actual work and commitment, I think its just a feeling for her. Is this at all like your wife?
Keep you mind open that once and if she goes through the MLC process and matures she may offer a solid adult version of love. It then will be up to you whether you are still interested, but sometimes looking at the past makes us realize we have been deluding ourselves. But then again I think this is true of any relationship.
