Yes, asking her to make a decision is pressure. Again, if you are at the point where you don't want to wait any longer then it may be appropriate pressure.
One other word of caution, even if she says she agrees to the pro activity and amicability, and says she stills wants a D. Likely the actual work of filing, etc will fall to you. This is typical WAS/WS behavior. In the first two months of my sitch my WW pushed me to "file" several times. When it comes to D they want it, but they don't want to do the D work.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
