A familiar story with questions. V

[SteveLW]

Well as I said it is well within your rights and power to do RR. I wish you the best in whatever you choose. I think sometimes posters give these types of ultimatums thinking it will cause their spouse to want to R. So I wanted you to be prepared for the likely outcome. As I said WSs/WASs tend to recoil from pressure and pursuit. So likely she will fall back on "I am moving out and getting a D" since that was her proclamation. People do not like to go back on proclamations.

I advocate a wait and see approach. Time tends to be what WSs/WASs need to "overcome" their BD proclamations. Pressuring them to choose before that time has elapsed will 99.5% of the time result in them adhering to those proclamations.

You seem content with either path so maybe you are ready to have that heart-to-heart. But only you know that. Please keep us updated.