You are right. I do see the pursuit, but I also admit I feel like I am losing the battle against time.
This is like saying, I am running out of time to get out of the hole I am in, so I need to dig the hole deeper.
Pursuit will not help. It will push her away.
Your situation is very new, right? You joined on 6/2, and you said she had bomb dropped you a few weeks ago.
But you expect that after a few weeks of you making changes, and within a day or two of moving back into the house, your wife has to feel or behave in a certain way or you are moving back out?
How does that show her you are a man only a fool would leave?
One of the posters says it's consistent changes over time that turns things around.
Your situation is still way too new.
You are expecting the unreasonable.
Also, I know you think you know what she is thinking, because you know her facial expressions, but if you tell her what she is thinking, you remove the opportunity for her to have second thoughts, modify her initial reactions, grow, change. It kills any chance for her to build a new marriage with you.
You need to dig deep and find patience. Bring this up with your individual counselor.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
