Oh man. Well you are going about this all wrong and in the process you are just pushing her farther and farther away. No more R talks, no more laying on the bed next to her, no more asking for her keys and pulling her car in the garage, no more clearing space so she can have a spot in the garage, THIS ALL HAS TO STOP. It is all pursuit behavior, and it is all applying pressure. SHE WANTS ZERO PRESSURE FROM YOU. She is sick and tired of you, you may even repulse her. That probably hurts to hear but it is true right now. Her feelings CAN change, but it's going to take a long time and patience. Read DR. Read Sandi's rules several times a day. LIVE THOSE RULES.
Originally Posted By: Hornsfa
Its all so overwhelming, and I feel like I am losing time due to all my years of NOT communicating.
It's too late to do the stuff you are doing. You can't fix it now by showering her with love, in fact you will only make things worse. You've got to quit listening to your internal voice because it is telling you to pursue, do favors, "fix" all the wrongs and that voice is 100% wrong. DB'ing is counter-intuitive. It is very difficult to embrace at first because it is the opposite of your internal voice. But it's your best chance.
