A familiar story with questions. V

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She never responded to the texts (not unusual). she made dinner last night and the evening was typical with no mention. After dinner, my D15 asked if she and I could go for a ride. So we were gone until about an hour before bed.

Now I'm awake at 2am and thinking about the email password change. In the past when I have seen or heard things and blown them off only for the thought to pop up later, there has turned out to be something behind it.


An idea has popped into my head and appears to be staying. I've decided to put it out here before I give it too much more thought. Any helpful opinions are welcome.

First off I realize that I have to be willing to go forward with it and I am.
I am seriously thinking about calmly asking her if we could meet outside the home sometime this weekend to discuss things.

The just of the conversation would go like this. (Obviously all calm):

I have been waiting and wondering for 6 months if you planned to move out and take my children in May. Now May has come and gone and you are still here. Not even a word or update from you.
During these 6 months, I have done some thinking and I have reached some conclusions I would like to share.
Thinking back, I don't think you were ever that "In Love" with me. I think you were ready to settle down and I was there. We had 2 kids and you poured your love into them. 10 years later you no longer need me. You started looking for someone that you were actually really wild about.

Either way, we were a team and did it together and for that, I will always have a respect for you. We have 2 great daughters.

If in fact, you still want to go. Let's start planning how we can split in a way that doesn't have to be ugly and we can both get started living our lives.......
(obviously, there will be more, but you get the point)

I have never been so ready to have this talk. Detachment does this to you. I would have to be prepared emotionally and commit to never lose my cool regardless of what W comes back with.

I know that ultimately I have to make this decision. I just want to run it past y'all before I pull the trigger.
As said before any helpful input is welcome. I hope that some of the experts that I may have miffed in the past might chime in