One thing I forgot to mention - I asked if her counselor had asked to talk to me, or if not, if I could talk to her counselor. She said her counselor had not asked to talk to me, and remained silent if I could talk to her counselor.
Personally, I think the only counseling she has been to was with me, to my counselor, and of course he stepped on her toes, and shes probably mad.
H: 47 W:49 M: 17 BD: 5/20/18 OM discovered - still in contact as of 06/07/18. W says she is moving out 9/1/18