Moving past the WAW to a stronger me Pt. 2

[Vanilla]

Handled like a champion.

Now she is waking up to you a little. A very little.

But you acted like a leader. Please learn from this, couples check in on their finances in this way, they work as a team.

It's very masculine to be head of the household in this way, be pleased.

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V

[RR17]

...I was also really happy with the way that I carried it. ....

This, this is what it is all about. Detached from the response and feeling good about your behavior. Good job!

[Davide]

Thanks V and Joseph and Maika and LWolf!

I would not be feeling this good if not for all of your support.

Why is it that every time I meet with my wife I end up feeling energize and positive afterward? She has never been less than consistent and resolute in her desire to separate when we meet in person. Is it just that I enjoy being in her presence? Is it because I feel like I have handled the last few interactions really well? Is it just a lack of detachment. I guess I shouldnt really let my mood get affected even in a positive way, but it is hard to stop.

[TBSakaJ9]

Looking back over my sitch I remembered feeling that same with my EW and I think it had to do with making a connection. Maybe kind of like Stockholm Syndrome......

[Davide]

Mentioning the fact that I will be documenting my trip on my (new) instagram account when we meet on Saturday - that would be pursuity, no? I would love to mention it in passing, but I dont want to push it either. Thoughts? (If I dont mention it she most likely will never see it)

[Davide]

Mentioning the fact that I will be documenting my trip on my (new) instagram account when we meet on Saturday - that would be pursuity, no? I would love to mention it in passing, but I dont want to push it either. Thoughts? (If I dont mention it she most likely will never see it)

[Vanilla]

I would mention it, saying you are going to really enjoy the break and time out, and will be recording it for posterity.

Posting on instagram will be great for you anyway, lots of positive feedback. It doesn't matter if she doesn't see it now or as you go. But she will see it.

Go have a great time and keep in touch with those who matter to you. This is a special time for you, a pattern interrupt.

V

[Davide]

Thanks V.

Absolutely. I am doing it to share with friends, not for her. And I am really looking forward to the trip at this point. I am meeting up with so many family members, good friends, old acquaintances, etc... The first week and a half I will be almost entirely with friends and family - a great support network, away from all this.

I am a little nervous about camping out in the car or in whatever locations I can find in the national parks (no reservations!) but it will work out. I would like to not fully lose touch with W over this time, but definitely pull back.

[Davide]

Phew... Any last words of advice from the sage heads at DB?

Tomorrow is d-day (departure day) as I say goodbye to the W (and dog) and take the car for the start of an epic 2 month road trip.

I am going to ask the W to take a picture of me with the fully loaded car since I am going to be documenting the whole trip on instagram.

My only fear is that she has some sort of goodbye letter for me, since she mentioned that previously. I am certainly not going to ask her any R questions. Positive, chipper, friendly, looking forward to the trip. I'll try to validate but she really doesnt share much with me. I saw some motivational quotes up on the wall in the house last time I was there, so I know she is trying to take care of herself.

Ok... off for one last bike ride and then to pack up out of this [censored]-hole apartment.

Thanks guys and gals!

[LoneWlf]

keep us posted if you can connect to internet