DonH was replying when the thread locked. Here is his posting:

I really have to chime in here as I don't have bio kids either but even after being D'd for coming up on 12 years now, I am still involved in my step children's lives. Not as much as I once was but I totally love those kids and always have - no difference, from what I can tell, than if they were my own. Some people still find this odd. They almost always are surprised that I still see the kids, still do things with them, etc. I'm like, their mother and I got D'd - not the kids and I. I knew them since they were 7 and 9 and was married to their mom through both of their HS graduations and when it came to college, it was no different, other than I was no longer married. I'd have no problem doing the same with someone else's children. In fact, I think as JuJu said, I could totally love someone else's children - not nearly as sure about another woman.

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