Can I really do this #3

[Dtrmned]

just got a call from W.
She takes a little while, but I knew it was coming.

Please weigh in and let me know if I am doing something wrong.
W files for D and gets a separate bank account. She withdraws a week later.

I change my paycheck over to an individual account and only put a very minimal amount in the account now to cover minor things. Everything else I make sure is paid. Rent, utilities, cable, cell, car, gas, groceries, everything.

W is unhappy since there isn't anything in the account really. Arond $100-200 dollars is average in the account. W thinks I am hiding money. I am not. I am just merely being prudent and not allowing full access. If she were wanting to be my W, she would have full access.

Am I punishing her, or is she just being the WW/WAW/MLC whatever selfishness rears its head today thing?

I did validate and say how I hate that she is in that situation but she didn't like that either blaming me.

She wants to sit tonight and pull up the calendar for to set the mediation appointment. I told her we can talk about that tonight. I did ask about her job situation and she said "I think I may have something starting in a few months, but it will only be for about $$ per month so with the child support, I will be just scraping by. I didn't say anything, but thought "no kidding!"

At this point, I think making the mediation appointment and having her go through the motions may be the only thing to get her to reality. The $$ she is talking about making won't even pay for the rent, let alone anything else.

I am not upset, nor was I during the call. She said there are some other things she wants to go over and I just said we could go over them tonight whenever she would like.

She is frustrated because she feels like I am dragging this one. She feels this way because in the last 20 something years, I have never let anything just drag on. Deal with it and move on. She knows how I am so I can see why she feels this way. BUT, I am not dragging this on. She is. If she is that confident and comfortable with the D, she needs to push it forward. I don't know if it was Steve, AS or Sandi who said that if they want it, there isn't much you can do about it, but a lot of times they never lift a finger to move it forward. I want her to do the lifting and I'm not carrying the heavy stuff, or even half of the box. She has to do it.
I didn't take the bait and get into a fight so I feel really good about that.

So...thoughts..input...weigh ins??