Nicole - yeah for sure. In my case, I also never put my needs and priorities on the table during the MR. So, waking up early to accomplish my goals was never even something I put real effort into. I also didn't have the mental strength and the wisdom that I have gained in the last year in how to approach my goals without beating myself up and taking small steps. I would try to make huge changes overnight, which was so unrealistic. But I didn't know how else to do it and when I failed it fed into my narrative of being a failure etc etc.
I guess I wish I had also created space to focus on myself so that I could've been a healthier partner and parent. It wasn't impossible, but I didn't have the tools and the right way to self-reflect.
Ste7e - yeah, I know what you mean. I experimented with my schedule to see if my estimates of how long things will take match up to reality. And I realized I was pretty close to my predictions. What helped me get into sleep mode was to set 15 minutes as winding down time - turn on the alarm, put the screen away, meditate for 5 mins, and then lie down. When I do that, I almost fall asleep instantly or within 5 mins.
So try out different things and see what's holding you back in terms of getting to bed on time. One thing that was messing up my goal of getting everything done and getting to bed on time, was working out in the evenings. I changed it to working out in the mornings and it's way better for my schedule.
