Well its been a little bit and I wanted to post an update. I have been spending more and more time with my wife and she is in an interesting state. I would say she is 75% fully her old self, or even a more mature and more self assured version of herself, with a 25% reversion sometimes to a light version of her MLC behaviour. So as I said before definitely nowhere near done, but I am very surprised where she is at this stage in the process. I still stay mostly detached, but I do match her where she is. She has been saying I love you more and more, I will only occasionally return the idea. I allow her to mostly approach for physical contact and affection, but she pretty much is completely back to our pre MLC mode of hugs, intimacy.
But one of the interesting confusions that is still there is that she brought up the idea of polyamory. I told her that I had never believed that such a thing is possible and that was never an option. She was confused and hurt (right?). And when I asked why she sheepishly admitted that she has been "in love" with her "friend." I reminded her that I had said as much over a year ago and it was no surprise. But that is that is what she wanted we should part ways now. She was crying and said she could not imagine a world without me in it. And when she talked about her friend she would say things like "he is boring I could not imagine spending too much time with him" or that "he is like a brother to me." When I said that this was all very confusing and did not make sense she also seemed confused. So that part of the fog and confusion is still around. And observing it from afar it is amazing to see how their minds become jumbled and confused.
So it all continues, and I still am where I was, detached and continuing on with my life as if we are not going to reconcile. But hope is there and things right now look much better than they did one year ago.
