So last night the W said she doesnt know me anymore. This was due to the changes i have been making to myself. I dont get frustrated anymore, im getting on with my life and im also a cheerfull person.
But she did say that what she has done has had possatives on me. I could have screamed.
Sorry catching up late to your thread. Don't scream learn to look at the insanity and develop a sense of humor. My wife told me everything that was wrong with me at BD1, and at BD2 said she could never see me change in all the ways she needed. At that point I was already pretty aware of MLC but still stunned.
Along the way she told me multiple times how much I had changed, how happy I was and she was stunned. Every time after that she would try to get close, and seemed to question her judgement. I never allowed her to get close after that. But she did say multiple times how much she was right and that her decision had helped me too. So its part of the insane clown logic.
Just detach, remember they are very confused and upside down, and don't take anything seriously. And because it seems this is so early in replay my advice is stay dark and dim. This is just reactive to you, and is probably from fear or from wanting to control or not facing the truth of what they are saying. So just keep moving on, pretend she is not there, and do not react to her wanting to keep things as they were.
I'll tell you that I only reengaged after my wife approached me after almost a year and after not talking to me for weeks on her own. She seemed to have a clarity and presence I had not seen in a year, she was very open and mostly sane. Only then did I start matching her step for step, no more no less. But I think your wife is nowhere near there yet.
