Prior to bed, my S came came down to say goodnight to me and my W. He asked "Dad, where are we going on vacation this summer?"
I would suggest planning a vacation for you and the kids. You want to try and keep things as consistent and "normal" for the kids as possible, and if a summer vacation is normal then don't break the tradition because of your W. Plan it out and then tell W your plans. It's up to you whether you want to invite her along or not, but go regardless of whether she does.
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I didn't say anything to W after he left, but I bet that one stung her a little bit. Or maybe she is still in her fog and didn't even hear it as an issue. I can't read her mind, but I felt the question deeply. As I said, I didn't react, just said what I said, gave him a hug and a kiss and sent him off to bed.
I hope she heard it, thinks about it, and puts this in the realization category of how things will be if we do D.
She heard it and it probably stung a little. She is no doubt feeling guilty about hurting you and the kids, but don't confuse that with remorse. She still feels JUSTIFIED, because after all it's "all your fault" that this is happening. Don't bank on things like this turning her around, that's not how it works.
