I wanted to encourage you to stay the course. My W showed many of the same changes early on in our turnaround. She became transparent to a degree that made me feel uncomfortable, but also subtle little changes. I remember the first time I felt she was laying towards the middle of our bed, as opposed to the magical hover (as AS refers to it) hanging off the edge of the bed. Kisses hello and goodbye, hugs, things that had been missing for weeks prior to BD, and for 4-6 weeks after.
I think these changes say more about where the A might be. While they may not be completely out of contact, it sounds like 1 or both are moving on from it. Obviously I don't know this for sure, but at some point you may want to address the fact that keeping your son in that troop may not be the best for the MR, and that you may need to find a new Scout Troop to join.
Yes, these changes suggest what you are doing is working. I would hold back a bit on initiating the hand holding. The reason is that she may have used the hand holding as a control method, and you starting the initiation has given her a sense that she has you back where she wants you.
Intimacy takes time to rebuild, so I wouldn't make any assumptions around that. Just stay the course!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
