LoneWlf and Natash, I obviously can't tell from what you've posted if you were controlling or not.
However, the argument "I wasn't controlling because I was doing what was best for my family" gives the impression of someone who is unable to see other people's point of view.
Most marital disagreements are between two people who each believe they are doing what is best for the family.
The person who wants to save as much money as possible vs the person who wants to travel and experience the world--both doing what they think is best.
The person who seeks as much career advancement as possible vs the person who wants their spouse to turn down work travel to spend more time with their young children--both doing what they think is best for the family.
The person who teaches their kid that every activity deserves 100% dedication versus the person who teaches their kids it's ok to dabble and explore many things--both doing what they think is best.
The person who never leaves their kid overnight versus the person who feels adult-only trips are important--both doing what they think is best.
Doing what you think is best for your family doesn't keep you from being controlling.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
