So gentlemen, is this something men fear as well? That you are sort of (or outright) being used?
And yes, I concede you may not be fully representative of ALL men, but hey, close enough!
Hello
Not a man : o) but I think this is something that probably comes up a lot.
In my (limited) experience of dating post M, one man used this to his advantage: the fact that he had a regular wage, property, and earned much, much more than me. Like that made him a good prospect (and a good prospect for M). He paid for pretty much everything, took me out a lot, took me on holiday...
Was that attractive? Not for me, for a couple of reasons. I like to know and feel independent, and he was very controlling as well.
The wonderful man I'm with? We had an interesting conversation...I asked him what had attracted him to me, and one of the reasons he gave was that I was very genuine and wasn't looking for a free lunch. I know he doesn't like manipulative people, or artifice, and he's attracted to women who are their own person.
