Gordie, I am so happy to hear your gentle voice on the threads again! I even like the way you write your posts out like lines of a poem.

I think that the exchange with your W was perfect -- how you were clear but didn't go into long explanations. I think her silence and hug was a very good sign that she understood. My H never asks where I am or cares at all, so to me it is wonderful that she wants to know where you are. But I see that your boundary is keeping you sane. I obviously need some of that sanity myself if you see how stupidly I still respond to my H a lot of the time. I will try to channel Gordie more.

I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living.
Wait for the Lord with courage.
Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.