Moving past the WAW to a stronger me Pt. 2

[Davide]

Joseph,

You mean I should work with her to set a budget for her? I was leaving that all up to her, assuming that it would come out of her salary - obviously assuming that is a mistake (NO ASSUMPTIONS!). But I dont want to control her at all. If she says that she doesnt want to share a budget with me, that it will all come out of her salary, shouldnt I accept that? I dont want to control what kind of apartment or room she moves into - if she wants to spend more on that and less on other things, is that my business?

I get that we should start new accounts for each of us and use separate credit cards (which we are basically doing).

I get that we should talk about the house and how we will handle mortgage payments going forward.

I get that I should ask about what happens if she quits her job.

I still don't understand what we should do about our joint accounts. I don't know if we should split them, take a bit out of them to start new accounts and have some wiggle room, or if I should give her money monthly out of them.