OK, hang in there buddy. I know when I was in the thick of my sitch my nerves were raw, and I could react negatively to things I would normally let just roll right off my back. sandi has your best interest at heart, and she was simply trying to see if she could get you to stop spinning on things.
There is nothing wrong with journaling. I did it often earlier in my sitch. Like I said I got a lot of negative feedback (even some that hinted that I WAS an idiot!) related to the new house search. I am thankful for those perspectives even if I didn't heed the advice. If in a year my wife up and leaves me and takes me to the cleaners I'll have to look back on that advice with regret that maybe I didn't pay closer heed to it. But buying a house was ultimately up to me, not to the posters that opposed the idea.
Same in your sitch. Don't sweat it if you get 2x4s that you don't like. Just remember that the intentions of those posters is to help. Even if their delivery isn't what you wanted at that moment.
By the way, really good job on the pro-activity on the physical for your S. Your life will be a lot easier by not having to have had to deal with it AFTER daycare said "sorry, he come here".
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
