A familiar story with questions. V

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Haven't posted in over a week so I thought I'd touch base.

Well, May came and went and W didn't move out nor did she show any signs of movement in that direction. Not until last night, but I'll get back to this.

Meanwhile, except for any romantic show of affection, W has seemed happy and things have been peaceful. She has been showing respect and courtesy and a continuation of the positive behaviors that I have described recently. Sex has been much less frequent, but it has happened.

Although I have stopped snooping, I have seen very little sign of any OM. Once in a while, something will trigger suspicion but I just pay attention, try to give the benefit of a doubt and it goes away. If there is something going on it is very different than last time as she doesn't seem to be primping, working out or in that "selfish fog" that was evident 5 years ago when she was preparing for an actual meet up with her EA partner. She has put on a few lbs and I believe that she would be more concerned if she had an OM.

So about last night. A little background first. W has a good job and makes good money. First 12 years of M she was a stay at home mom and I supported financially. Supported quite well until the recession and my industry changed and we were forced to live off of savings and retirement and although we didn't suffer total financial ruin, we did make major adjustments to lifestyle to maintain the most important parts. Good schools etc. (as I'm sure many of you have similar experiences).
Fast forward to now and although much of my industry has recovered there are many changes and making money is trickier and sometimes far between. Thank goodness W was able to find a great fit with regular paydays. I still make more but it can be long coming. Anyway
Last night while looking at her account she was a purchase I made for nonessentials from her account. She usually loads a petty account for me and that is what I use. This week the funding hadn't happened and I used her account. We are talking less than $100.
So just prior to going to bed in our separate rooms, I guess she noticed and went ballistic. Ranted about how I needed to make some changes and how she couldn't keep this boat afloat.
For once I just listened and said "I'm sorry". Nothing else. She continued and unlike usual I didn't defend my action I just let her go off. This seems her only way to communicate her dissatisfaction. Bottle it up and eventually explode. Usually, I engage the fight and come back with facts and logic until she gets dismissive and walks out. Not this time. I refused to fight. I apologized, more than once and just let her vent. Now there's a 180.

Was the outburst really about a few dollars? Who knows? Is it a sign of change in the air? Who knows?
Perhaps she was just due.

Either way, although I did lose sleep over it last night, I'm planning our next encounters so that I proceed in a methodic manner and don't let my ego and emotions get the best. Advice and incite appreciated.