Mozza, a poster here kept long lists of repaired R. I personally know of 3 very happy chappies.
It's like a doctor seeing only sick people then saying everyone is ill these days. Ever bought a car and suddenly they are everywhere?
Now let us have a little chat about self talk and stinking thinking. That way lies pain.
To my mind the key is do that which works. So the 180s are for YOU, if something works for YOU then don't change it.
If you sense that you didn't set boundaries or you have poor communication skills then those are the ones for work.
The 180 is a quick and dirty way to get moving, easy for Newbies, X isn't working for you, do the opposite. Sometimes it's a question of adjusting X. The opposite won't do.
Of course you miss W! Google the Kubler Ross cycle, it's how we cope.
Now self talk, this is defo 180 for you. Stop think before you criticise yourself. You can never change the past, what you have is today and only today. You can not undo a single thing you did nor can you change anything you said. You can shift the way you think, no shoulds, musts or have to. Choose instead. It's very powerful, choose is one of the most powerful words in the language we speak. Empowering.
If you find yourself catastrophic thinking or black and white, know it won't help you achieve what you want. Google the STOPP technique.
It's going to be ok.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
