I simply don't understand...

[Hornsfa]

I haven't had time to reply to everyone's posts and I will.

This situation just came up.

As I mentioned, I racked up some credit card debt and so did she. So in order to get it paid down quick, I applied for and got a consolidation loan. I had told her I was going to do this last week, part because i need to do it, and part to show her I was serious about fixing the financial stress I caused. She asked if I would pay her back for her 401k loan she took years ago when we bought the house we lost. At that time, I said yes, even though that cut me to the core because I lost some of my 401k too...

And to sell our house, because it was heading to foreclosure, we had to borrow 5K from her parents. She has only paid them 100 back. Again, in an effort to get her to see I am trying, I told her I would try to pay her parents back with this loan.

So the lender was supposed to deposit the loan in MY checking account. Instead they deposited it in hers. She just told me she transferred it to my account.

I am a man of my word, I promise. But the way she has treated me this past few weeks makes me wonder if it even matters I use part of this loan to repay her and her parents right now, or wait until later.

What do you folks suggest? I don't want to play games with her, but since the BD, she has been so mean... so cold hearted, so uncaring about anything to do with me.

Do I use my loan to pay her and her parents back now, or do I wait until the divorce is filed?