Moving past the WAW to a stronger me Pt. 2

[Davide]

Ok.

I really don't want to bring this up when I am packing up and saying goodbye on Saturday. I want that to be light and positive.

Should I do it now (before Saturday) or wait until I am on the road?

Also, what is an "integral fin" arrangement?

Our financial situation is really good as we have both been very frugal in the past and our mortgage is really cheap (small place bought at the right time). I am a teacher so I don't make that much, and my wife makes less, but with no kids it has been easy to save. If we were to split our joint accounts W would have plenty more money to spend if she wanted to even though she doesnt make that much.

We had originally agreed to let each other know if we were going to spend more than a couple hundred dollars on anything. I can't imagine how she could spend that much money without getting something more expensive.

I really dont want to push to separate our accounts, or look controlling.

"W, can we talk about finances for a moment?"
"Last month you spent 1,300 dollars on your credit card, and have spent 3,000 in the last 3 months. I am just wondering if that is temporary because it seems unsustainably high given how much money you are making."

"Can we come to an agreement about spending?"

I definitely need some help with this conversation as I feel like I am just going to fall back into controlling, judgemental behavior.