Am I Piecing, or Pi$$ing in the wind???

[Clyde]

Back too our financial sitch... during the separation/custody agreement we made in court we agreed that the W would claim S7 as her dependent. Tax time rolled around after our Recon, we tells me she is going to get her taxes done...

M: "Are we doing them separate? We should have the accountant look at it to make sure we are getting the best outcome."
W: "No, I think we should do them separate, after all that is the court order."
M: "Ok, if thats how you want to do it - then so be it." You can still send them to my accountant and he can do them separately."
W: "No, thats ok.

W ends up doing them and has $5200 coming back to her. She got the return over a month ago, (I found an atm receipt in her truck yesterday")but she has told me otherwise. Meanwhile the elec got shut off, at which point she claimed to only have $400 to put to it, mortgage is late and so forth. I did not tell her I knew about the money being in her account.

This a.m. she tells me that if I am going to be insecure, then we are done.

M: "It has nothing to do w/ insecurity, but if you are willing to be done over it then so it is. How do you want to move forward from here?"
W: "It is to insecurity"
M: "I don't see what arguing is going to do at this point, why don'y you go ask someone neutral to our sitch what their opinion is."
W: "It is, you should go to counseling and get it figured out."
M: "I've been post separation, you have not, why don't you go?
W: "Sure, get the mortgage current then you can pay for my counseling"
M: " Why do I have to pay for it, why don't we take some of that tax return you should be getting any day and attend a retrouvaille weekend together?"
W: "That money is for school clothes and stuff"
M: "Thats a lot of school clothes, I bet we could get the school clothes, pay for retrouvaille, and bring the mortgage pretty damn close to current. As a matter of fact I found an IRS website that allows you to track your return, why don't we see when it is coming so that we can get some of this stuff figured out, it would be a big weight off my chest knowing we are not in danger of foreclosure."
W: "No, thats ok."
M: "Does that mean you do not want to help me w/ the mortgage?"
W: "No"
M: "you got it already didn't you?"
W: "Yeah, a few days ago."
M: "Thats a lie, I am certain about it, one of many."

I left for an hour or two, nothin has been said since.