Am I Piecing, or Pi$$ing in the wind???

[Clyde]

Some more journaling.......

My work situation has been quite bleak... I had three big contracts get severely delayed do to permit issues. That instantly put me in a bind and left me scrambling. Mortgage is 2 1/2 months late, electricity got shut off 2 weeks ago as W made a payment arrangement (I did not know about) that she did not follow through on. At that point the electricity company demanded that he bill be brought completely current ($850) + they wanted another $300 deposit as our credit w/ them was no good in order to get the elec turned back on. I had no money to my name, asked the W what she had and she said only $400. I managed to get the bill payed by using that $400 and 5 different credit cards I have for my business, (they are all maxed out so I had to charge different portions on all 5 to make up the difference), W was right there when I was doing this. I'm currently rushing to get a small job completed so the I can pay at least 1 month of the mortgage (trying to avoid going 3 months late as foreclosure becomes a risk!). This is the first time I have ever been late on the mortgage.

Been pretty cold between W and I, quite aggravating as she was getting more talkative, looked like the last disagreement would be swept under the carpet only to rear its head again given there was no mutual resolve truly reached. This has been the classic way the W deals w/ things when it comes to the "sister"... argue, no attempt to see my point of view, leaving the door open for the same situation to unfold again another day.

W got into bad car accident sunday (luckily no serious injuries), I rushed to the scene and immediately hugged her upon arriving. I could not figure out if it was the accident or the actual hug that restarted affectionate touches between W and I, (since last disagreement there has been none), anyhow that night we cuddled and were affectionate as if all was ok. when we got home I immediately called the insurance company and dealt w/ all the details so that the W could lay down and rest as she was sore from the accident.

Next day the W had planned on taking D13 out to shop for 2 dresses for a school dance and 8th grade promotion (both are happening this week so delaying the shopping was not an option). When we had talked about that day the plan was that I was going to work, W would handle school runs and do the dress shopping in between them. I'm in the shop and she comes out to ask me if I could do the morning school run (kids are on transfers - school runs take about 45 min round trip). I didn't feel like I had the time but agreed anyhow. When I got home the W and D13 left to go shopping. I mean while got bombarded by calls from the insurance companies, rental car, etc. I was on the phone for close to 2 hours straight. At that point my work day was pretty much shot, as the insurance company was recommending that I get the W truck to the auto body shop right away as not doing so may cause us to miss out on the only 5 seater rental for the next 5 days. Body shop/rental shop was 35 minute drive one way.

I called the W to see how shopping was going (maybe if they were close to done W could deal w/ it so I could get back to work)... mind you it is 2 hours after she had left. W tells me the are just getting to the store, that they stopped to pick up her "sister". At that point I realized not only can she not deal w/ the drop off of her truck/ pick up rental, but that she wouldn't be able to do the afternoon school run as planned. I made arrangements to have S7 picked up and proceeded to take the truck to the shop. Since W was not available to pick me up from body shop, I had to wait close to an hour for the rental place to come get me.

Meanwhile W is shopping, only text from her was asking if I was able to get a rental. I picked up my boys on my way home. got home and played some soccer w/ them, around 5 I call W to see if she was going to be home for dinner (we usually eat around 5 - 5:30). W says "no we ate, we are just leaving the last store, I have to drop my "sister" off, if you want I can pick you and the boys up something on the way home, there might be some left overs in the fridge too. I'll call you when I leave my "sisters" to see if you guys want anything". This was 5p.m.

I already know by the lack of communication between W and I that day and the fact that she is w? the "sister" that I should not count on her getting us dinner so I made us dinner.

7:15p.m. w/ and D13 pull up, no call to see if we want anything like she said she was going to do.

D13 walks in wearing high heels that are not appropriate for 13Y.O. I ask if she had fun, made no mention on the heels. I did not say anything to W as she walks in, she makes no effort to say anything to me. A few minutes later she approaches me in our room and ask why I am being stand offish. I replied "I am not, you could of initiated the hello. But since you are asking, I am annoyed at the lack of communication today, on top of that I had no idea dress shopping was going to be an all day outing. You know I need to get this job do done so that I can pay the mortgage, instead i was dealing w/ the truck/rental/ins companies picking the boys."

W: "We went all over the place looking for dresses, it was hard work!"
M: "Well you killed 2 hours going to the "sisters" first, but that is besides the point, it would of been nice to know if I was going to be able to get back to work at some point today, maybe planned dinner for boy's and I etc."
W: " f@%& you, you are so insecure.
M: "No, its called common courtesy, should of known it was going to go out the window when the "sister" got involved!
W: "f@%& you.

I walked off, no sense in continuing at that point.