My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 2

[SteveLW]

So I told her I won't be in a part-time relationship

Not sure what the others think...

I would not bring up the relationship. It is ok to refuse to hang out with her. But do not complain about the relationship. Just say you have other plans, and do have other plans. She needs to see that she is no longer your top priority without you rubbing it in.

Same thing regarding her waking you up in the middle of the night. If you think that she needs help and you are willing to listen to her, why not. But if you think she is just manipulating you, you can ask her not to wake you up because you need to sleep. Just do not base your behavior on what you think or want from your relationship.

Thanks for the reply. Maybe I made a mistake by saying that, but my point to her is that I won't share, or play second fiddle. I believe she needs to hear that in some form or fashion.

I have set some boundaries on the waking up thing, and I believe I have posted it (not yelling at you - I have posted a lot!). I think she wants attention more than manipulating, but I can't assume anything.

No she doesn't need to hear it. Words are cheap. She needs to see it. You need to act like you wont play second fiddle nor share. In fact, if you think she is in a PA then put your foot down and tell her SHE is no longer welcome in the marital bed. I know you returned to the bed. But SHOW her you won't share or be second fiddle.

Action not words.