There is nothing you can do, you can't control it....what if she does, marries him, then divorces him and now she is getting child support from 2 different dad's? Would that make you feel better?
Don't borrow problems from the future as there are enough to deal with in the present. Deal with it when and if it comes until then there is nothing you can do about it.
And please stop doing these things.....you have to control yourself.
Ok - You have to stop your emotional cycles. We spent all day talking about this yesterday and here we are again. You really have to start implementing and focusing on what the folks here are telling you and stop focusing on your W. It is preventing you from healing.
there's only one thing that would make me feel 100% better and its never going to happen.
Yes it will happen BUT you are focused on the wrong thing.
You DO have a son. right? Isn't that alone worth moving forward?
Focus on yourself. Be the best dad possible. Don't worry about your W. She may come back she may not. If she doesn't it's her loss. Your son will appreciate you for what you have done and someone (may be your W, may be someone else) will recognize that and fall in love with you.
But the ONLY thing that can make 100% better is YOU and focusing on YOU (and your son). I know those words are meaningless. I was destroyed when I was dealing with all this BS.
Start running, start exercising. Anything that will keep your mind off things and things that will exhaust you lol so you can sleep. Do things with your son.
Now my stupid mind is trying to figure out ways to confirm this. like saying "Congrats" to OM or MIL and seeing what they say in reply.
IM NOT GOING TO, but holy hell do i want to.
Plz help me stay rational.
Orange, that stuff won't help you. You're emotional right now. So take a few deep breaths, get up and have a change of scenery for a minute. Read something, play a dumb game.
Just calm yourself down.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
OK, hang in there buddy. I know all this is tough. One day you'll look back on all this and wonder why you were so easily emotional.
And in case it helps, my W has categories on pinterest for all sorts of things, including things she MIGHT want to do or have in the future. So you may be all worked up for nothing.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
