Affair discovered

[STH17]

OrangeK, I may be slow to come around on this, but I may get there. When people say things like "put her stuff out on the porch", how much stuff are we talking here? A bag of essentials? A toothbrush and one change of clothes? I packed my own bag when I left. And actually the irony is there were two times in the past when she packed her own bag to leave and I followed her around while she did it, wanting to talk about the issue that had her upset enough to leave. It would take a week to get ALL her stuff out of the house. Though she does have a habit herself of "cleaning" by putting anything she doesn't want in her space out into hallways or common areas of the house, never to touch them again. In the past I've moved that stuff back into the closets they came out of. Can I start with just taking the bedroom back and making her have the couch? I'll probably be posting a lot more often here in the near future as I try to sort this all out. Change is due for sure, and I need to stand up for myself.

This morning I asked W to pick up our son from my school when she is done with her counseling session. She agreed, and I asked her to watch him for the night. Didn't tell her my plans, but she probably knows I'll be going climbing. I am in a mens group that meets weekly by videoconference, and I'll be attending that call at school. It ends at 10:30, so W will probably be in bed when I return home.