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10-4 OK.....get it all out.


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M: 44, W: 43, D: 8, D: 6
M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
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the situation with legal help looks promising


M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4
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2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD
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Waves seem to have passed for now. I am feeling a lot more level today. Looking forward to an evening with my Boy.


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The waves will come and ago but the important thing is that you make an effort to put 1 foot forward in front of the other every day. Don't think 1 year from now or 6 months from now...focus on being better 1 minute from now.

I am 1 year in and still feel periods of sadness....it's ok, just don't let it control you and keep you from progressing.


Married 14, Together 17
M: 44, W: 43, D: 8, D: 6
M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
Divorce Filed: 2/7/2018
Divorce Final: 4/12/2018
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Stupid Stupid Stupid.

Why do i do this to myself.

Just checked her pinterest, she has a category called nursery on there. nursery......

Now im freaking out that shes preg with OM. why do i do this.....why do i care?


M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4
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Yes it is and you know it. I have not checked my EW Instagram account in over a year.........remember, the battle is not with your EW the battle is within.


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M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
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Now my stupid mind is trying to figure out ways to confirm this. like saying "Congrats" to OM or MIL and seeing what they say in reply.

IM NOT GOING TO, but holy hell do i want to.

Plz help me stay rational.


M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4
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Dude....you were stable and u made one move and look what happened. The battle is with yourself, you have to control it.


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M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
Divorce Filed: 2/7/2018
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Yea..i get it. Sorry. We were planning (at least i thought we were) a 2nd child this time last year. Its a sensitive topic for me, i know i shouldn't have looked.

I effing miss her. and i shouldn't. I am such a damn sucker.


M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4
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OK.....it is ok to miss her and it is ok to still love her.....but you have to control yourself, that is the battle, the challenge.

I remember early on you talking about your diet and what you were going to eliminate and what you were going to eat. This is no different, controlling the urges, the desire, etc.


Married 14, Together 17
M: 44, W: 43, D: 8, D: 6
M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
Divorce Filed: 2/7/2018
Divorce Final: 4/12/2018
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