Benny's was one of the fastest turnarounds I've seen and his threads were a wealth of information for new people. Unfortunately he became concerned that his W might see the threads and he asked for them to be deleted. The reason his threads were so valuable was because he came here exactly like everyone else- desperate to put things back to "normal" at any cost, sure he would die if he couldn't get his W back, convinced that he should be begging/ pleading/ pursuing and completely unconvinced that DB'ing would work. But despite his concerns he was a model DB'er, and one of the best listeners and "implementers" I've seen here. He well and truly listened to the advice and he implemented it EVEN IF HE DIDN'T AGREE WITH IT, which he often didn't. I think he was even surprised himself when it started turning his W around. And DB'ing didn't just turn his M around, it turned Benny around. He was heavily codependent in his M and had no confidence in himself at all. But once he accepted that his old M was dead and gone and that he was the one that needed to do some hard work on himself, he got down to business and somewhere along the line realized that he COULD do it. He COULD be independent and strong and self-reliant. And THAT attracted his W back to him. I hope he checks back in now and then, his is a great story!
