Thanks for the amazing update Tobias! So many of the sitches here end up poorly, we need more that saved their MR to come back and share.
"Don't tell people. I told a few and I regretted it later especially when my W and I were doing better. I was desperate and needed consolation and someone to listen to me but if you do...pick someone that only you know or have a meaningful friendship with. "
This is sound advice. I am a huge advocate for newbies to not share their marital sitches with friends and family. It is a gigantic barrier to R if the WAS feels others are judging them. In my sitch, if I had confided in my family there is no way my wife would have R, she would have felt like the well was poisoned by them having knowledge of her activities.
As you say, be very careful and if you need someone to confide in make sure you can trust them.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
