Good morning all. Just woke up to a text from WAW. She said a song just came on the radio that reminded her of my deceased brother. Some of you may recall that he died a year before my Mom died while WAW was in Florida. I assume I can reply with something like "yeah it reminds me of him too whenever I hear it." Thoughts?
Yeah that sounds fine.
IH, just in general you want to behave like a moderately interested 3rd party if that makes sense. Just remember the whole picnic analogy is all about YOU HAVING YOUR OWN PICNIC. In other words, you are your own person. Strong, independent, secure. If she texts then you reply. If she doesn't, who cares you're enjoying your separate life.
I may be repeating myself on this next bit, I thought I had posted this to you already but I don't see it in your last thread so it may have been when I was having computer trouble. Your approach needs to be a little different than the standard DB approach. In DBing pursuit is bad, but in pursuing a romantic interest who is NOT a WAS then pursuit is normal. Your ex is no longer a WAS. Yes she is clearly hesitant to jump back into something, but I think the interest is there. So don't be afraid to pursue a little. I think what you did with the concert was perfect- you invited her to go "along", not specifically to go on a date. She didn't go and you went and had fun anyway. PERFECT. That is EXACTLY what the picnic is all about. So come up with something you are OK doing alone if you have to, and ask her along. If she declines then don't make a big deal of it because that is just her running back into the castle. You go anyway (picnic). Ask her to something else a week or two later, one time she will decide to join you at the picnic.
