She tried once a few years ago with her mom and was dismissed. I really can only guess as to what it is, but it's something traumatic from childhood
I think all you can do is encourage her to seek IC. If she approached her mom and felt as if she was dismissed, that certainly didn't help anything. If she is slowly opening up about something in the past, then she must feel she can trust you.
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But I have done enough now to know that when I act in a way that I never would have dreamed of before, the response is positive. She might get mad, but I can see the dynamics shift and in fact things improve.
That is progress. Holding her feet to the fire. IDK about her, but a lot of manipulative women will take different approaches. When they finally see you are on to their game, I am crazy enough to think they finally give up........at least to a big degree.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
