Hi Jim, would giving her an ultimatum get you to a better place? I read somewhere you should give a WAS at least as many months as the number of years that you have been together. Giving her a strict ultimatum might make it clear to her that you are truly detached and are not ready to be in limbo anymore.
My issuing ultimatums was one of the problems in our marriage, so I don't think that's a good idea, but our divorce has gone on a long time. I think the email make it clear that I'm not ready to stay in limbo any more.
And about the value of her house, would you be able to get an appraisal on it and share the costs with her? or have her get an appraisal and set up a deadline for it. This would be more beneficial to you than her under quoting the value of the house.
It's really a matter of how much money WE invested in her house, so an appraisal wouldn't really matter. We both know the number within about $ 30K, and the difference is simply not important to me any longer.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
