Husband gone for second time - 4

[Jim1234]

All, I do feel there's been a small change in my husband.

When I mention no eye contact above it's due to me smiling at my husband back in April and he responded "don't smile at me. I don't like it." That's back when I posted about how he seemed to feel guilty. That's when things started to change a bit....right after we moved away.

I'm still not suggesting anything about reconciling but just another series of improved interactions. Tomorrow my husband will visit again in the afternoon. We'll see how that goes and what kind of mood he's in.

I don't want anyone to worry that I'll take my husband back easily or that there's even a chance he'd try to come back, but whatever is happening lately is at least on a positive trajectory. At minimum this is good for our daughter and gives me hope that my husband won't be the total monster that he was for a while forever. I feel it's important to write these updates for anyone who is currently dealing with an enraged defiant spouse.

Nicole maybe he's starting to regret the way things are working out. I have no doubt that you moving away, him thinking your are seeing someone, that you wouldn't go away with him are making him rethink things. It will take a while. I'm glad things are at least a little less tense than before.

Personally, I think you should talk to him about some boundaries, like not telling you not to smile at him, and not tolerating his staring at his phone while he's with you just because he's in a bad mood, or putting up with him being a dick around you because he's an 'enraged defiant spouse'.