Maika, you sound like a very decent, smart and fun guy. The fact that your wife hasn't yet regretted her decision is a big mystery. I'll have to post more on your thread about that.
All, I do feel there's been a small change in my husband. In addition to inviting us on an overnight trip today he later said his flight got in late last night so he wanted to sleep here but he didn't want to wake me up it the middle of the night. I was generally busy while he was here but he kept coming to ask me things wherever I was. Our daughter kept asking me to come and play with them so I went for a while and my husband and I talked. I told him how we're going to a nearby city in a few weeks where his brother's family lives and I asked his opinion about our daughter seeing her cousins (her only cousins who she loves). He said yes he will call his brother and he'll try to arrange to come that weekend too. He also stayed longer this time and at the end I said a slight goodbye without eye contact and he said "thank you so much for taking care of her. Thank you for everything." He was also asking if we need more money, said our apartment looks neat and clean, and asked about the antibiotics I was taking. There were other things as well....maybe it's just one of his good days but the multiple references to overnight / sleepover type arrangements never happened since he left last August.
When I mention no eye contact above it's due to me smiling at my husband back in April and he responded "don't smile at me. I don't like it." That's back when I posted about how he seemed to feel guilty. That's when things started to change a bit....right after we moved away.
I'm still not suggesting anything about reconciling but just another series of improved interactions. Tomorrow my husband will visit again in the afternoon. We'll see how that goes and what kind of mood he's in.
I don't want anyone to worry that I'll take my husband back easily or that there's even a chance he'd try to come back, but whatever is happening lately is at least on a positive trajectory. At minimum this is good for our daughter and gives me hope that my husband won't be the total monster that he was for a while forever. I feel it's important to write these updates for anyone who is currently dealing with an enraged defiant spouse.
I'll update again after my husband leaves tomorrow.
