Our situations sound very similar apart from the lack of children on my end. We cant divorce for one year either. My wife has never spoken of divorce (though she did tell me that she didnt want to be married). That was the last relationship talk we had and that was about one month post BD. I got one anguished email wondering about what she was doing, but that was it. Otherwise all communication has been logistical, housekeeping type of stuff. I dont have much more reason to hope than you do. Other than the fact that it is really early.
Listen, I am not blaming you at all. However, I know that while my W made the decision to walk because of her own issues, I was not the best man or husband I could have been. My codependency and neediness put a lot of stress on the relationship. I'm not saying that was your case at all, however, all either one of us can do right now is work on improving ourselves. We need to focus on that. If we can make ourselves into the best men we can be and our Ws still want to walk - that is on them, and they will be missing out.
Like you said, there will be no divorce for much of a year, so using that time to work on yourself and being patient are the best things you can do right now. What do you want to be in 8 months? What are your goals?
Hang tough.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
