Sounds like they were just an excuse to talk to you?
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
I dunno. Maybe, but I doubt it. I am sure she needed them for something. I was wondering if it was a temp check since she brought up me talking to another woman and thinking I might have taken her home. Jealousy rearing its ugly head...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Birth certificates still in the mailbox this morning. I am out of the house today doing a side job. The oldest is there watching the kids. Just hoping she does not show up while I am gone. S15 knows what is going on and I do not want him to be put in an odd position if she tries to get in the house...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Birth certificates still in the mailbox this morning. I am out of the house today doing a side job. The oldest is there watching the kids. Just hoping she does not show up while I am gone. S15 knows what is going on and I do not want him to be put in an odd position if she tries to get in the house...
Ugh. That is sub-optimal. Is there anyway to get someone to go over there to spend the day until you get home? I don't trust her.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Well... she never stopped by. Still cannot understand why she needed them immediately yesterday and now they just sit there. Not even going to try to comprehend the things she does anymore...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
W never did show up to pick up the birth certificates she wanted so badly. I have gotten 2 texts from her asking when I filed for D. The last one saying she needed to know because CEFS needed to know. Fuch CEFS. Im not married to them. Also, I doubt they even want to know. She is just being shady and wants to know for herself. Things arent lining up as she expected in her WW fantasy world...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
mtb, thanks for the update. Wow, did she have control problems when you were married to her? She sounds like she doesn't like to be in control. She has acted out every time you've shown her that she no longer has any control over you.
Keep up the good work.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I don't really know. She's definitely not the same person I married. One of her big issues id that she always claimed I was controlling. And I kind of was, but it was out of necessity. I hate to say that, but it's true. Especially financially. We have always lived paycheck to paycheck. She has no financial responsibilty whatsoever. She just wanted to buy anything she wanted without thinking about whether or not we would be able to pay our bills later. So I had to put a lock down on our finances. I needed to make sure everything got taken care of, so I kept a tight eye on every penny. I can see where it was controlling, but at the same time, I needed to make sure all the bills got paid too. I think me being controlling was a big factor in her leaving. She wanted some freedom. Funny thing is, now that she's gone, she can't manage her money and her life is a mess in general. A lot of mind reading going on here, but I feel like she's missing the stability that I brought into her life. In the beginning of all this, I pulled all the classic mistakes and she knew she had me. She knew she could come back at the drop of a hat. She had that going for her and she knew it. Now she doesn't and it was the only thing she had that she was in control of. Everything was spinning around and she could grab on to that, and now she has nothing to hold on to...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
